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FAQ: What are the most visited pages on this website and how many visits do they get?

Several years ago, I wrote an article on how to write different types of magic uses, or rather how I personally write various types of magic users within the context of my Quaraun books. Today that page is one of my top ten most visited articles. It gets 50 to 500 views/reads/hits/visits per day depending on the time of the years and has had over 200k visits total since it was published.

Amphibious Aliens: Debunking The Atwater Family's Alien Abduction Hoax with more then 30MILLION reads since 2007 and The GoldenEagle: Debunking Stephen King's World's Most Haunted Car Hoax with over tenMILLION reads since 2007 still rank as the two most visited articles on my website, but, neither of those are writing related.

Writing Medieval Servants is my most visited writing related article with over 7MILLION reads.

This website was started in 1996 and has 1 to 3 new articles (all written by me, I am the only writer on this site) published almost daily. In 2017 we crossed ten thousand articles published. As of 2023, EACH article gets MINIMUM 10 to 70 reads PER DAY, with the high traffic articles getting 500+ reads per day.

And since December 2019, my website now gets three hundred thousand to 7 million reads per month - well over ONE HUNDRED MILLION PAGE READS PER YEAR, making it not only the single most trafficked site in the State of Maine, but also one of the most visited websites in ALL OF NEW ENGLAND!

{{{HUGS}}} Thank you to all my readers for making this possible!

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By EelKat Wendy C Allen

Author of Cozy & Gothic Fantasy, Sweet/Fluffy M/M Furry Romance, Cosmic Horror, Space Opera, & Literary SoL genres. I write Elves, Fae, Unicorns, & Demons.

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Marriages & Other Such Stuff in Fantasy or Sci-Fi?Should there even be marriages like in the real world?

Have you ever read a science fiction or fantasy book, where nothing is at all like our human world as we know it, and than it ended with a blatantly Christian marriage ceremony (often with a priest, vows, and rings) and the couple living happily ever after? What's wrong with this picture? Alien world... everything is different, than suddenly BAM! a wedding straight from our world? huh? What gives? Does this ever bother you?

Or even worse, what about those Medieval weddings where the bride walks down the aisle in her long white dress - in the 1200s... you know, almost a thousand years before Queen Victoria shocked the world by doing the unthinkable and wearing WHITE at her wedding.

Did you know that Queen Victoria's was the FIRST white wedding dress in the world?

Did you also know that walking down an aisle was an invention of the 1870s?

And did you know to that in REAL Medieval times, a wedding was a man publicly raping a pre-teen girl in front of the village in a big show of: "Look I fucked her, now she's my wife!" - You did know that was how a real life, real world Medieval marriage ceremony took place, right?


Too busy watching the movie Camelot and writing those Medieval princesses in white gowns bases completely, and historically inaccurate off that one movie?

Why do writers put so much details into creating their world, yet not one ounce of into creation goes into a non-human marriage? Way yo pull your readers out of the story, huh? Built up this amazing fantasy world, then - boom, crack your reader over the skull with a good old white wedding that matches absolutely nothing of your people's culture and screams of "lazy author".

In my sci-fi books my aliens live on earth and have adopted several earth customs, however marriage was not one of them. They use the words husband and wife because otherwise humans wouldn't understand them, but never have I ever included a wedding or a ceremony or a church/priest etc. It bothered me that these people who were so different in other things would suddenly get married in a traditional human-style wedding.

Likewise my fantasy characters are rarely human, and more often faeries (usually Sirens or Phookas), and like my aliens, (who are Space Elves) they do not follow after human traditions.

Here are things you will never find my sci-fi/fantasy characters with/doing:

  • setting foot inside a church
  • worshiping God/fearing Satan
  • getting married
  • wearing wedding rings
  • celebrating family holidays (birthdays, anniversaries, etc)
  • celebrating human holidays (Christmas, valentines, Halloween, etc)

How do I deal with this in the stories?

Churches & Religion vs Fantasy

God & Satan vs Fantasy

Getting married

  1. Should the bride wear white?
  2. Should there even be a bride at all?
  3. Why would an alien race hold a Christian wedding?
  4. Did Jesus leave Earth and visit them too?

often my characters Roderic, (both alien and faerie) well say they are married, but rarely they are married has humans call marriage... my main character (in several books) for example has had 4 wives, the first of whom he idolizes to the extreme, and when she dies he morns her for the rest of his 500+ years.

I had a story where he was required by a human law to give the humans a copy of a marriage certificate, at that point he was at a loss, because he had never heard of a marriage certificate and had no idea what the humans were asking for. When the humans said that it was a piece of paper that proved he was married, he responded with an answer that she had borne his children, therefore they were married.

This resulted in an uproar from the humans, who than wanted details of the wedding ceremony, the church, the priest, etc... my poor confused alien had no idea what they were talking about and in the end the humans came to the conclusion that my alien was never married in spite of his claims that he was, because no ceremony had ever been performed and the children were born out of wedlock.... to which my alien scoffed at the humans and there silly unimportant rituals and said their inferior laws didn't apply to him since he wasn't human anyways... he continued to maintain that he was married.

The Exchange of Rings vs Fantasy

Wearing wedding rings

the above mentioned alien and his wife never had wedding rings... though he did at one point, around the time that he first began to call her his wife, give her a very large ruby hung on a pendant... the ruby later on became very important to the story, as it was stolen after her death, and he went crazy trying to track it down and get it back... though it is never actually said in the story, it is assumed/understood that it was upon giving her that ruby that he claimed her as his wife, and therefor, on his home planet there must have been some tradition of giving the "bride" a stone of some sort to symbolize that she was "claimed" or married. I have used this stone giving with other alien couples from this same planet, though this was the only time I used a ruby. Other times I used sapphires, emeralds, or opals. This character is said to be the wealthiest man on his planet, he is the son of a king, and therefor the ruby was something that had more value than anything else he (or anyone else on the planet) owned. It seemed that he man had a stone of great value, which told others his standing in the community, and would trust no one to touch it... by giving it to a woman, he told the world, he valued her as much as the stone: in other words he was saying "she's mine, touch her and die"

2017 Update...

My "world" actually is a galaxy, with 3 populated solar systems, each with multiple planets and moons that are inhabited, each mapped out to varying degrees, and each with LOTS of native and non-native cultures, so to answer this question, I'll pick one culture, because each culture has its own traditions and taboos and there are around 75 cultures fleshed out, and it'd be impossible to try to answer with a "my world does this" because there is no one size fits all cultures answer to this one.

Because it's the culture most fleshed out, I'll go with my main character's culture:

So Marriage in Moon Elf Culture (a type of High Elf).

  • >>How easy is it to get married? Is there a long legal process involved?

Citizens can pretty much pick who they want, but royal class and nobles usually have arranged marriages.

For citizens, marriage is very basic and has not much legality to it. Two (or more) adults just decide to live together and that is generally seen as them becoming spouses after that. Basically the act of sex = marriage.

For royals it's the same, only they are not allowed to pick their spouses, and consummating the marriage is not private, and done in front of witnesses (often against the will of the couple, who often has never meet prior to this day, and often doesn't want to be with the one picked for them.)

  • >>Are there any special ceremonies involved? If so, are these ceremonies cultural or religious?

Moon Elves are not very ceremonial. They don't celebrate things like birthdays, weddings, or anniversaries, nor do they have holidays or holy days. They tend to look on those things are "frivolous Human activities". They thus have no weddings, no exchanging of vows, no rings, no receptions, or any of that type of stuff.

Their culture as a whole is not prone to being religious. Once in a while an individual is religious (such as the series' main character who is a wizard-priest), but it is unusual. They tend to have a more logical and scientific outlook on things. They don't believe in a god-creation, for example. Because of this non-religious outlook, they don't have any of the typical "wedding activities" we Humans think of as wedding stuff, because most Human wedding traditions are based off religious ideas.

  • >>How many partners are you allowed to have? Is marriage monogamous or polygamous?

While some are monogamous, most are not. Most family units consist of a "Male Head of the Family" who is a protective alpha male. He will then have multiple spouses, usually 3 or 4 or so females and 1 or 2 lesser/beta males. Each family unit is usually made up of 5 to 7 adults, all of whom are allowed to be sexualy active with any of the others in their group. Any children born into the family unit, are seen as the alpha male's, regardless of which male is the biological father.

  • >>Is marriage seen as being a lifelong commitment? Are you allowed to marry someone else after divorcing?

Their culture does not have a concept of divorce. Once someone is accepted into the family unit, they are part of that family until they die... unless they commit a crime that gets them cast out of the tribe, and thus also cast out of their family unit.

Moon Elves have a hive mind ability, and become psychically connected to their sex partners. It is this psychic connection that is seen as the act of marriage. Divorce is not possible as this bond can not be broken. Each member of the family unit feels the thoughts, emotions, and physical pain of each other member of the unit.

Because the Moon Elves value family over everything, the only way a person can get cast out of their family unit, is if they murder or attempt to murder one of the spouses or one of the children. They are then seen as a threat to the family and are cast out (of both the family and the tribe) in order to protect the family from harm.

  • >>Bonus: Assuming your world has non-humans, how are interspecies marriages viewed? Are they legal?

Interspecies couples are frowned upon, but are allowed if the Elf already has other Elf spouses. Elves have been known to take Human, Faerie, and Demon spouses from time to time, though it is unusual. Usually the non-Elf is accepted into the family unit, but not welcomed by the rest of the tribe.

Members of the royal family are usually disinherited (no longer considered royalty) if they take a non-Elf spouse, as it is expected the royal family keep the bloodline pure.

Half-Elves that result of such unions often have difficulty finding spouses, as most Elves will not take a half-Elf spouse, and most non-Elves shun half-Elves.

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What did you do today to step closer to that goal?
Whatever you do, be your best at it!
And remember to have yourself a great and wonderfully glorious day!


By EelKat Wendy C Allen

Eye of the GrigoriIf you ever made fun of or had any part in the destruction of my farm, and the illegal selling of half of my land to Colliard, you shall lose your land.
tent2.JPGIf you ever made fun of or had any part in my being homeless since 2006 - YES, I AM still homeless in 2023, you shall become homeless.
eelkats_house_before_after.jpgIf you ever made fun of or had any part in the backhoe driving over my house, you shall lose your house.
home again the return of the goldeneagle dodge 330If you ever made fun of or had any part in my car being cut in half, you shall lose your car.
volvo-art-car-eelkat-Dazzling-Razzbury-3-artist-wendy-c-allen-painting3.pngIf you ever made fun of or had any part in my becoming crippled, you shall lose your health.
If you ever made fun of or had any part in the murder of my son, your child shall die an equally horrible death.

Evil men go out of their way to try to drive a person to suicide.

Are you an evil man?

Are you sure you're not?

How many people have YOUR hate filled words killed?

Next time you go to do a mean thing to a fellow human, stop and really think about the consequences of your actions.

Did you ever notice how every one has a story to tell about me, yet not one of them ever speaks the truth?

What lies has YOUR gossiping tongue spread about me?

Did you know...

October 16, 2006, bomb blew up my house because of YOUR lies.

August 8, 2013, the house which replaced the one the bomb blew up, was driven over by a backhoe.

November 14, 2013, my 8 month old infant son was murdered because of your lies.

November 14, 2013, I was beaten up, paralized for 5 months, spent 18 weeks relearning to walk, I'm now crippled for the rest of my life, because of YOUR lies.

Are you proud of what you have done?

Enjoy your eternity in Hell. You earned it. You've certainly worked hard for it.


If you have any information about any of these events, please call FBI Agent Andy Drewer at 207-774-9322

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More on Worldbuilding In Fantasy Novels:

Books I Use When Creating Fantasy Worlds:

*UPDATE: ADDED November 7, 2013 - I suppose one thing I should point out at this point, before we go any farther, is my use of the word fantasy throughout this series. The bulk of this set of articles was written 7 years ago in April of 2006, parts of it appearing on EK's Star Log and other parts of it appearing on my personal Squidoo account. In the 7 years since writing this I've received hundreds of emails regarding it. A common question asked being: "Why do you talk of building a fantasy world if you don't write Fantasy?"

ANSWER: Fantasy with a capital "F" is the name of a type of fiction, in other words Fantasy is a genre. I do not write Fantasy fiction of the Fantasy genre, that is correct. I do however create fantasy realms for my Science Fiction and Horror works. I write Dark Fantasy, which is a sub-genre of Horror and Space Fantasy which is a sub-genre of Science Fiction.

Did you see it? No? Let me point it out: I write about fantasy worls as the exist in Horror and Sci-Fi but I do not write about fantasy world as they exist in Fantasy Fiction.

If it is not real it is fiction, if it exists only in fiction it it fantastical, if it is fantastical it is a fantasy item, because it is not a real item, however being fantastical does not make it part of the Fantasy genre, just as not everything in the Fantasy genre is always fantastical in nature.

The word "fantasy" with a lower case "f" is a word that means "not real" and has nothing to do with the Fantasy genre (capital "F") at all. And therefore when I say "fantasy realm" I mean a world that is NOT the Earth on which you and I live on in the real world, and am in no way, shape, or form referring to the Fantasy genre.

The methods I use to create my fantasy realms can be applied to ANY genre: Fantasy, Science Fiction, Horror, Romance, Western, etc.

2013 World-Building Series UPDATE:

Due to issues with content scraping, outright plagiarism, some of my articles appearing on OTHER Squidoo member accounts without my permission, and many of my "Squidoo articles" being stolen off Squidoo and posted without my permission on various  blogs and sites including Wikipedia and Helium; all of my articles are in the process of being removed from Squidoo.

This series of World Building articles in one that has been heavily plagiarized over the years and as of September 2013, it can only OFFICIALLY be found here on - if you find it posted elsewhere, know it was stolen and I am not receiving royalties for it.

2014 Update:

As you know, or not, Squidoo owners Bonnie and Kimberly-Dawn stole thousands of Squidoo articles from Squidoo members, and tried to pass them off as their own, resulting in the lawsuit against Squidoo owners for the theft of tens of thousands of articles.

More than 100 of my articles were transferred off my Squidoo account and moved to Bonnie's account,

while my authorship and writing articles, including this world-building series were deleted off my Squidoo account and transferred to Kimberly-Dawn's account!


I am shocked and flabbergasted at what these 2 women have done. That they thought they could get away with stealing so many articles from so many authors! Buying Squidoo from Seth Godin, did not give then the rights to our articles and these two horrible women had no right to delete them off of our member accounts and republish them on their own accounts, trying to pass them off as their own.

More then 100 Squidoo authors have gathered together in lawsuit against Squidoo owners, Bonnie and Kimberly-Dawn. The result of that is, Bonnie and Kimberly-Dawn, to avoid their asses being sued to hell and back, have now transferred the Squidoo lenses back to their original owners and deleted the entire Squidoo website.

Squidoo is officially gone. It exists no more. Squidoo is dead. Most Squidoo writers have opted to move to Hub Pages as HubPages has bought the remaining shambles of what is left of Seth Godin's Squidoo after Bonnie and Kimberly-Dawn massaquered it in their article stealing frenzy.

While I do have a HubPages account and my remaining Squidoo Lenses can be found there temporarily, they are being moved here and deleted off HubPages as I move them

April 2017 UPDATE:

As of now, all on my 600+ Squidoo pages are now moved here to and no more are remaining on HubPages.

It's hard to believe, Squidoo has been gone for 4 years now. It was such a big part of my life for a decade.