2018 April/May/June Update:

As you know, most of the year I publish 2 to 3 articles a day.

However, every year during convention season, I take a break from that to go full swing CosPlay.

From early April 2018 to late June 2018, article posting schedule will be sporadic, while CosPlay Season and Convention events are going full swing.

During this time period, you can expect most, possible all new articles to be focused on costume making, CosPlay, and the characters I'm CosPlaying.

UPDATE: It's now divided into 7 pages. The primary page "Meet Avallach" is now over 20,000 words long. At this rate, it'll cross 60,000 long before the costume is finished, and that's not including the other 5 pages. The primary page has now crossed 60,000 89,000 words and counting, the whole set of Avallac'h pages are now more than 200,000 words long, and more then 500 pictures of Avallac'h and his friends have now been uploaded on these pages, plus there are now 400+ hour-long videos f the costume making process as we record live, every second of this insanely elaborate, over the top CosPlay project.

As of May 19, just 29 days to PortCon we are embroidering his blue coat in a countdown against the clock to finish in time for the event, while we pray that The Dazzling Razzberry will be re-weilded back together and drivable in time for PortCon, after it's recent vandalism by Old Orchard Beach's ever growing Ku Klux Klan problem.

There will still be daily updates, but the BULK of the daily updates will be limited to the pages linked here:

  1. The Avallac'h CosPlay: Who is Avallac'h?
  2. Obsession: Meet Avallac'h
  3. [NSFW] Avallac'h & His Nude Women | Witcher 3 Game Screenshots
  4. Historical Accuracy vs Avallac'h (to go live later this summer)
  5. The Avallac'h CosPlay Costume Making Vlogs (will go live AFTER finishing the costume)
  6. How To Make The Avallac'h CosPlay (will go live AFTER PortCon)
  7. How Much Did It Cost? ($800+ will run to around $3,000) Budgeting The Avallac'h CosPlay (eing written as the costume is being made, will go live after completion of the costume)
  8. Why do children CosPlay rapists & rape victims? & WHY Avallac'h is a M18+ character. 
  9. PortConMaine 2018
  10. On Being a Handicapped CosPlayer: A Look At Events of PortConMaine 2017 That Resulted In 3 Disabled CosPlayers Getting hurt at The Convention and How These Things Could Have Been Avoided


After PortCon Update:

PortCon 2018 is over... but the making of the Avallac'h CosPlay is not. It is not possible to make a costume as detailed as I'm making in fewer then 400 hours, and only 129 hours went into the simplified first run version you saw at PortCon'18. The complete version will not be seen until PortCon'19

If you want to see this costume in person and watch it's progression onward as I continue to expand it... I'll be wearing it at the monthly Maine Association of CosPlay Enthusiasts (M.A.C.E.) events, throughout 2018 and 2019, you are welcome to join us. The list of current events can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/293470827423558/events/ This list is updated monthly, so be sure to check back often to find all the dates, locations, and details of events.



Age Difference In Marriage: The Fiction VS The Reality | Novel Writing Tips




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>If a romantic relationship, how far apart in age can two characters be in order to make the relationship seem, less awkward?

About the age difference thing... my husband and I have been together since 1987... he is exactly 30 years older than me.

My dad is 13 years older then my mom.

My grandfather is 17 years older then my grandmother.

One of my uncles is 27 years older then his wife.

One of my cousins is 42 years younger then her husband.

One of my aunts is 33 years older then her husband.

One of my uncles is 24 years younger then his wife.

That's just in my family. I could start listing off the couples in my town or the couples in my church as well.

The point is, in spite of what novels, movies and TV shows tell you, couples with an age difference of fewer then 10 years are relatively uncommon, and couple with an age difference of more then 10 years actually makes of around 60% of American married couples.

Studies have shown too that the closer in age the couple is, the higher the chances of divorce, with 87% of all couples with an age difference of under 10 years getting divorced in fewer then 3 years, and only 33% of couples with an age difference of greater then 10 years getting divorced. And surprisingly a couple with 10 or more years age difference has the highest chance of staying together 50 years or more.

The divorce rate is HIGHEST among couples who are 2 years or fewer apart, with their chances of being married more than 6 months before divorce, very slim.

Statistics also show that the closer in age the couple are, the more they fight, with the physical violence level increasing the closer in age they are. With couples of 2 to 3 year age difference, have the highest rate of domestic violence, spousal abuse, child abuse, and spousal murder while couples of 20 years or greater age difference having the lowest amount of domestic violence, with child abuse and spousal murder being very rare.

Studies show too, that the closer in age a couple are, the less respect they have for each other, thus the more each pushes the other around, while the greater the age difference the greater the level of respect for personal space.

Also interesting to note is that couples with a close age of 5 years or less, have a tendency to share a single bedroom, while couples of 10 years or greater tend to have 2 separate bedrooms. It is believed that the ability to have private time away from their spouse, by have separate rooms, is the case of the lower violence and divorce rate as separate rooms allows each to have their own personal space.

Also, couples with a close age tend to have 1.5 children per couple, while couples with a 10 year or greater age difference have an average of 8 children. (How you can have .5 children is not something I understand, but that's what the study said 1.5.)

Couples of a 5 year or less age difference report hirer stress levels, have a higher rate of turning to drugs, drinking, or prescription pill abuse. Have the highest rate of depression and suicide. While couples of a 20 year or greater age difference report the greatest amount of marital bliss, and have the lowest rate of drug and alcohol abuse.

One study pointed out that couples with a close age range, tended to not be either spiritual or religious, while couples with a large age range were highly devoted to their religions. Religions with the greatest age difference and lowest divorce rate were: Muslim, Seventh Day Adventist, LDS/Mormons, Mennonites, Amish, and Jewish. In each case the religion itself preaches/promotes women marrying before the age of 18, while also teaching men abstain from marriage until at least 30, thus promoting an average age difference of 15 to 30 years apart in the bulk of each religion's membership. This particular study concluded that adherence to one's religion and being very devote, played a part in why couples with a large age difference, also have fewer divorces and less violence as well as less drug and alcohol abuse.

If you start researching it, there have been a few hundred scientific research studies done into the importance of age in relationships, and it's quite a fascinating study once you start looking into it.

(I did a paper on age difference in marriage, across various cultures, in college in 2013. It was one of the most fascinating things I've ever had to research. If you've ever read any of my books one of the first things you notice is a heavy emphasis on the particular cultures marriage habits - this is why I write like that. I'm just fascinated with marriage styles of various cultures, especially polygamous cultures. It always saddens me how polygamy is often fetishized in fiction, but in real life polygamy is dramatically different than the way most novels, movies, and tv shows portray it. Which is why you also see me generally writing polygamous main characters, as well.)

In other words, you shouldn't worry about age difference. In fact if you have them too close together in age, statistics prove they are doomed to early divorce and a failed relationship. The greater the age difference, the higher the chance of a happy ever after in the real world. Only in fiction and fantasy are couples with an age difference of 10 years or less either happy or believable. The real world couples have much bigger age difference then fictional media would have you believe. Thus your couple becomes a more realistic and believable couple, the greater their age difference, not the other way around.

With your couple having an age difference of 20 years apart, that's really not awkward in the real world... only in fiction books, fictional movies, and fictional tv shows is such an age difference portrayed as awkward.

Do you prefer romance/friendship arcs to start with the two people hating each other? Or beginning with something else?


>I'd rather see friendships arise out of common interests and mutual respect.



>I'd rather see romance arise out of long-standing friendship.



>I'd like to see friendships and romances between functioning adults, you see.



>Fair enough. Let me rephrase, then: would you prefer friendships and romance arise out of two characters who are in conflict with each other? (ex. opposing interests, rather than outright hatred)



>Where are the relationships where two people have a lot in common and develop feelings naturally? Is that so boring?

You don't see that sort of thing in fiction, because that sort of thing doesn't happen in real life. Most authors write what they know about relationships. You won't see fictional stories about relationships based on common interests until you find real world relationships based on common interests.

Relationships based on common interests are so extremely unbelievable in real life, that's it's difficult for authors to imagine they'd even be believable in fiction. You can't expect reader to suspend belief THAT much could you?

Relationships based on common interest are less believable than a double dicked unicorn being real. Readers would have to suspend belief FAR LESS to believe a unicorn was real, then believe in the possibility that relationships built on common interests are a possibility, even in fiction. Asking readers to suspend belief THAT much is unreasonable, and that's why you'll never see fictional relationships based on common interests.


>I like to see enemies-to-lovers stories. Friends-to-lovers I don't mind if its done well, but more often than not it bores me. Friends don't push boundaries as much as enemies or rivals do, and when they do push the boundaries it ends up with them not talking to each other for some time. I feel like enemies or rivals know each other very well, or at least know things that friends usually don't. You dont have to beat around the bush with all that. So that's why I like it more.





>Personally, the enemies to friends to lovers (or even just enemies to lovers) is so overdone and just reminds me of Hallmark Movies. It's so easy to write because the conflict is obvious.

>I like friends to lovers, but I can see how that gets boring. I also love reading opposite attracts couples that would never work in real life. The conflict stems from differing world views, different values, rather than outright hatred.


>Agree, Enemies to lovers is the WORST.












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