2018 April/May/June Update:

As you know, most of the year I publish 2 to 3 articles a day.

However, every year during convention season, I take a break from that to go full swing CosPlay.

From early April 2018 to late June 2018, article posting schedule will be sporadic, while CosPlay Season and Convention events are going full swing.

During this time period, you can expect most, possible all new articles to be focused on costume making, CosPlay, and the characters I'm CosPlaying.

UPDATE: It's now divided into 7 pages. The primary page "Meet Avallach" is now over 20,000 words long. At this rate, it'll cross 60,000 long before the costume is finished, and that's not including the other 5 pages.

There will still be daily updates, but the BULK of the daily updates will be limited to the pages linked here:

  1. Obsession: Meet Avallac'h
  2. [NSFW] Avallac'h & His Nude Women | Witcher 3 Game Screenshots
  3. Historical Accuracy vs Avallac'h
  4. The Avallac'h CosPlay Costume Making Vlogs
  5. How To Make The Avallac'h CosPlay
  6. How Much Did It Cost? Budgeting The Avallac'h CosPlay
  7. Why do children CosPlay rapists & rape victims? & WHY Avallac'h is a M18+ character. 
  8. PortConMaine 2018
  9. On Being a Handicapped CosPlayer: A Look At Events of PortConMaine 2017 That Resulted In 3 Disabled CosPlayers Getting hurt at The Convention and How These Things Could Have Been Avoided

UPDATE April 17, 2018: I do not like being harassed online or offline, in any way, shape or form. Sorry, but what just happened this week is intolerable and I've blocked everyone involved and deleted all their posts. I will continue to block any one else who does the same as these people did. If you were one of the 200+ people blocked on my FaceBook account this week, here's a link to tell you why I blocked you: https://www.eelkat.com/cosplying-a-rapist.html 

If you want a quicker explanation of what happened, I tell you in this video:




BDSM: Fiction vs Nonfiction 
Writing About "Alternative" Sexuality




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BDSM: Fiction vs Nonfiction
Writing About "Alternative" Sexuality

BDSM: Fiction vs Nonfiction 
Writing About "Alternative" Sexuality

People who read my Fantasy novels often email me and ask where I get ideas for my work. My main character is a transvestite, who in public seems to be the dominate one of the couple, but in actuality is the very obedient and also masochistic "sissy twink servant" to his lover, who is a very dominate "bear" (if you really are in the community, then you know what that means) with some freaked out sadistic CBT fetishes. Readers point out that a lot of what I write about this couple is "different" then how most BDSM couples are written in Erotica and fanfic, and then ask where they can find the stuff I used for my research.

I can't give them places to find my research for this particular couple, because I didn't do any "outside" research to create them. I write what I know. I've been transgender for 31 years, and with my partner 30 years, and his "slave" full time 24/7 for 27 years. The stuff I write in my books.... I live it. The novels themselves may be fictional Fantasy, but often the freaky BDSM fetish sex lives of the main couple are straight up non fiction of my own life. It's just me writing stuff I live.

So, I say go ahead and write it.

Write it as non-fiction if your are brave enough, if not write it as fiction, or do both. You mention feeling passionate about it but also embarrassed... maybe, write it down in a journal, and then later use the journal as note for a fictional novel about a couple based off your real life?

>>I have plenty of BDSM experience. I'm looking for a certain kind of advanced/intense BDSM life; namely, to be an owned slave.

A bit of advice... this works best with someone you have known and trusted for DECADES BEFORE you become their slave.

>>Masters I talk to

and

>>not just to play at "scenes" that last for a few hours at most

indicated you don't have as much experiences in REAL BDSM as you think, it sounds to me like you only know the club scene, and actually, most BDSM couples flip their middle fingers at the club scene as being fake and phony and just there to titillate fans of Erotica books.

>>fantasies I have, about new forms of kinky sexual

further tells me that you are "into the club scene" and NOT the lifestyle, which are two vastly different things.

The Master/slave relationship done with a life partnered couple, is not about sex, fetishes, or fantasies, and you're not ready for it if you think it is.

It's about exchange of power. It's about giving up control. It's about losing freedom in exchange for safety. It's about having someone willing to love and protect you.

You want to know something? Both me and my partner are asexual. We also own no whips, no cuffs, no chains, no leather, no pleather, no rubber, or anything else BDSM sex clubs and Erotica books tell you a BDSM couple should own. That's something to think about.

If you TRULY want to test your resolve to get into Master/slave relationships AND want to prove that it's not you just being horny... find an asexual Master, and learn to live as an asexual slave... that involves a LOT of sex denial, chastity cages, not letting yourself cum, not masterbating... complete full, total removal of sex.

You become a slave... you DO NOT get to fulfill your fantasies. You no longer have fantasies to fulfill. He OWNS you. You no longer have the right to say yes or no, to ANYTHING. I have a locking gas cap on my car. He has the key. He also tracks the milage. When we go shopping, I walk behind him and I make eye contact with no one. I eat when and if he says I can. I sleep when and if he says I can. They is no: "Master I would like to..." like you see in books or clubs. Because you can't even open your mouth to speak, until he says you can. Safewords? They don't exist in a REAL Master/slave relationship.

We are not playing games. This is our life. I obey him without question. I'm bought and paid for. $13,000. He's owned me since I was 12 years old. 

There's a BIG difference between scenes in BDSM clubs, and an actual Master owning an actual slave. And really don't think you sound ready for that.

Far too many people get into BDSM just to have a sex game or two played at a sex club on the weekends, and have no clue what an actually 24/7 BDSM lifestyle involves, or that sex has very little to do with BDSM at all.

The only reason BDSM sex clubs exist is because BDSM Erotica fills readers minds with such places.

What you want to look for is NOT a Master in some sex club, but rather, a life partner, a friend, someone you love and trust and want to spend the rest of your life with.... find THAT person, and then tell HIM, what type of lifestyle you want to live with him, how you want HIM to become your Master.

The Master/slave couples who last the longest, didn't meet in a some bar or sex club, they were people who worked together, lived next door to each other, went to college together, attended the same church, and fell in love and became a couple, and learned the joys of BDSM together, as partners. That's something the Erotica books don't tell you. You have to look outside of Erotica to find info on what real BDSM couple live like.

>>I've had plenty of Dom/sub "scenes."

Which tells me, you have no clue what actual BDSM is at all and are NOT ready to become a REAL slave.

What happens when you two get old? My partner is in his 70s now. He doesn't get around good any more. I take care of him. Will you do the same to your Master? Or will you toss him aside for your next sex fantasy?

In any case, writing your journey, I feel is a good idea. Even if just for a private diary that you never publish.

You know what I would like to see published? More BDSM that is NOT Erotica and takes a full look at all aspects of a couple's life and how BDSM affects things in their life outside of sex. I think that would be far more interesting then just the sex act itself in a book. My own series is not Erotica for that reason. A lot of people say "If it has BDSM in it it can't be anything but Erotica" or "there's no such thing as BDSM that's not Erotica" but that's simply not true. People who say that are just the sex fetish folks who do a club scene once in a while and don't actually live BDSM as a lifestyle every day. They'd know BDSM is not about sex at all if they were into BDSM full time.




So, I was over on Reddit, you like I often am, and found this question. And answered it, like I do. However, the answer I initially gave was a simple generic answer. If you want to read my original answer unaltered, simply click on Reddit's embed feature links which Reddit provides for webmasters to be able to post their answers on their websites, while linking back to the original thread on Reddit (if you didn't know Reddit offered and encouraged the use of this feature, look for it in the "share" features underneath every post, comment, and reply on Reddit).

I am answering random questions today about world building, over on Reddit and decided to take my answers from there and expand upon them even further over here. So that's what this page is. Me rambling on about various aspects of world building techniques I use when writing the Quaraun series. The questions I am answering are embedded here. Clicking the link in the embedded question will take you to the original Reddit page where you can see the original answer along with other people's answers. If you wish to comment, you can do so on the Reddit page where a place to do so is provided.

In any case, as with all of my Reddit answers found on my site here, my original post on Reddit is much shorter then the article here.


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